Why do we celebrate Pride?

There is an exceptionally idiotic refrain that queer people get tired of hearing, especially in June. It goes somehing like, “Why do you have to have a public holiday around how you have sex? You don’t see straight people doing that.”

Marginalized cultures exist out of common pain and common fear. In essence, you and people like you sucked so hard, and for so long, that we had to build an entire culture. The reason that a straight sexuality event would, let’s say, be in poor taste is for the same reason you don’t see too many ‘white pride’ events these days. Our culture doesn’t exist in a vacuum, it came from surviving you. Pride exists because we are still surviving you. 

Pride is not about sex. It’s about culture. Queer culture has existed for thousands of years across dozens of civilizations in various ways. It has never been about sex. For most people, sex is private. Culture is the public expression of struggle and the hope on the other side of struggle. It is about finding hope in each other and validity in our own pain. 

Finally, screw your question. You are not trying to find knowledge. If you did you would be on google right now, not a public forum. Also, pro tip, that is not how you phrase a respectful question. Asking the question and phrasing it around sex is a blatant, ham-fisted attempt to delegitimize a culture. You are building a reason to delegitimize out of hate. So when you ultimately say something like, “and don’t call me a bigot. I have tons of gay friends” I have one word. Bigot. Because that’s what bigots do. They do not just hang outside of Pride events with their dumb signs, or use pejorative language. Sometimes they try and ham-fistedly sound reasonable and delegitimize our experience and our culture. Girl, you’re a bigot, I have no time to sit and argue with a bigot.

Author: Sam

Sam is the President of the Abilene PRIDE Alliance. He is a local progressive, rural government activist and works at TRUST Web (a web design firm) as the owner. He is also co-owner of WHITL Woodworking (a jewelry manufacturer). Sam has been an avid organizer since he attended the University of North Texas studying psychology. It's a passion that followed him his entire life. He ran for the Texas House of Representatives in 2018 and again in 2020 to draw attention to the lack of education funding facing Texas and the dire situation that most rural water infrastructure was in. Sam's hometown made national news several times for the amount of lead content in their drinking water. The issue remains unaddressed. In 2019 when he was chair of Indivisible Abilene he helped to put on Abilene's largest PRIDE event to that point in two weeks on $500. Over 500 people were in attendance at Everman Park. It was this event that would lead to the creation of the Abilene PRIDE Alliance. In the fall of 2019 Sam, James, and several other LGBTQIA people held the first Abilene PRIDE alliance meetings. Since then, they have formed an online database for affirming...

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